Many abusers who go through counseling continue to be violent, abusive, and controlling.
If your partner has stopped minimizing the problem or making excuses, that’s a good sign.
Our goal is to encourage helping professionals to be gender inclusive.
This includes using gender-neutral language when working with individuals, while continuing to analyze gender as a construct that has implications on gender-based violence in both heterosexual and same-gender relationships.
If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window. Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called. Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place (at a friend’s house, for example). Rehearse your escape plan so you know exactly what to do if under attack from your abuser.