I buy into the theory that attraction is the result of your subconscious interpretation of hormonal influences, and your ability to make sense of attraction is a result of your socialization and self-awareness.That is, attraction is largely out of your control, but how you make sense of it and act upon it is up to you.Some (I) would argue we should do a better job adopting them into our vocabularies (and I will argue that). The sooner we stop thinking of genderqueer people as “the other” and finding more ways to differentiate between cisgender and genderqueer, the sooner we’ll begin to understand one another, accept one another, and legislate fairly for one as well as the other. There are a lot of books and articles and research papers you can read about this stuff if you’d like to learn more.
It wasn’t my transition that was the problem – it was my partner’s lack of understanding and empathy for what I was going through.
Rejecting our transition is rejecting who we are on a deep and essential level, and the pain that comes with that can be agonizing.
This is an installment of the “Stepping Beyond the Genderbread Person” series, offering further explanation to themes and ideas presented in the original introduction article.
If you haven’t read the intro, I suggest you read it first.
Many have argued that I shouldn’t use those terms at all in my gender article because they aren’t inclusive of genderqueer folks.