“In prehistoric times men needed to be bigger and stronger to protect their families," explains Dr. "But even in modern days, when brain now dominates over brawn, many women still feel more safe and secure with a taller man (and men more secure with a shorter woman).”But here is the clincher: while the guys had their opinions, when asked if any of the things they listed would ever prevent them from asking a woman out, they all answered with a resounding no. Whether you're tall or short, reserved or animated, each guy is going to have different opinions on what they find attractive. But perhaps the old “he is just intimidated by you” line isn’t as helpful as we might think.
So if you identify with these traits, it doesn’t mean men see them as a negative thing, and it likely won’t be the reason he doesn’t ask you out. It seems to me it would be more helpful to remind our friend that she is awesome and she is going to meet a guy who is the right match.
Have you ever been faced with that impossible question from a friend?
Nobody likes a “know-it-all,” and if you feel you or your friend might fit into this category in social situations you should be honest about it and try to check that behavior.
But also remember that some guys might just feel threatened by an assertive woman—and that’s his problem, not yours.“An assertive and powerful woman is against a gender tradition that many still hold onto, explains licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, Stephen Betchen, Ph. “For example, some men have trouble tolerating a woman who is more successful than they are—but we’re seeing more and more of this.
Here’s what they told me: Abby: "I am very independent, and I love autonomy.
[My girlfriends] see this in a positive light..of them wish they had more of a backbone and ask for my advice on how to emulate my demeanor." Katie: "I'm very direct.
There are over 2 million more women in college today than men.”I asked Dr.